human beings we all have beliefs about who we are and what we
can do. It is an old axiom that if we believe we can do
something, we often can. At the same time if we believe
we can’t do something, often we can’t, sometimes even if it
is proven that we can.
is a funny story from abnormal psychology about a man who
believed he was a corpse. He wouldn’t eat, he wouldn’t
work. He just sat around all the time claiming he was
a corpse. The psychiatrist argued with the man trying
to convince him he was not really dead.
the psychiatrist asks, “Do corpses bleed?” The man responds
saying, “No, all body functions stop so there is no more bleeding.”
So, the psychiatrist says, “Okay, let’s try an experiment.”
So the psychiatrist pokes him with a needle and the man starts
to bleed. The man looks totally amazed and says, “I’ll
be damned. Corpses do bleed!”
we have a belief, even environmental and behavioural evidence
won’t change it because belief isn’t about reality.
Beliefs are about things that nobody can know in reality.
If someone has a terminal illness, she doesn’t know if she
is going to get well or not. She has to believe she
is going to get well precisely because nobody knows what the
an event happens, how we choose to interpret it depends on
our past experiences, decisions, beliefs and values.
It is therefore important to choose our reflective lenses
carefully. You may colour your world optimistically,
pessimistically, as a dreamer or a worrier. It is important
to realize we have a choice in how we interpret things.
We can filter out negative thoughts and hold on to the positive.
We can endeavor to withhold judgement on people and situations.
is not what happens on the outside that creates stress.
Stress, especially the kind that causes illness, comes from
the way we respond to what happens on the outside.
learned response can be unlearned, the root cause of that
event can be reprogrammed by looking at how your unconscious
has processed it and then shifting it all along your Time
other matters are also valuable. The first is believing
your goal is achievable. Otherwise you may feel hopeless
and don’t take appropriate action. The second is believing
you have whatever it takes to reach your goal (even if you
believe you need to re-organize the resources you have).
If you believe you aren’t capable, and so feel helpless, this
also leads to inaction.
you feel both helpless and hopeless you become apathetic and
opportunities can pass you by.
a person go back through a therapeutic session and re-experience
a negative event without the negative feelings associated
with it can assist them to form different, more resourceful
beliefs and create a completely different and powerful meaning
for them. It’s not erasing what actually happened, because
the content of the event is not what makes the difference
anyway. It’s what you’ve learned from it and the reminder
that you now have what you need in terms of inner resources
it follows that if you make internal changes in your beliefs,
then the external picture changes and so also your perception
of the universe. As Henry David Thoreau said, “Things
do not change. We change.” Take charge of your
Nygaard is a Certified Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Trainer,
Time Line Therapy® Master Trainer and Hypnotherapy Trainer.
She can be reached at email@example.com